How do you deal with it when a CHRISTAIN hurts you?

Well, yeah, this has been on my mind for a while now. I had a bad experience with a christian that I really admired, we both liked each other, and were great friends too, but the person that she is just wasn't mature enough to want to have a relationship, it just seemed like she was more into KNOWING I liked her, but after that, she really didn't have anywhere to go. But still, she just kinda pushed me away, and it's been digging me into the dirt, keeping me stressed and constantly praying he'd revive our friendship. But still, now I just can't focus on anything, I'm getting angry easier, not being compassionate or kind as I was, crying alone so much more than I was BEFORE I told her and I'm not taking it out on GOD, he's actually helping me through it, a lot. But the only things I'm really wondering, pertaining to GOD, is why does he let this good, loving, christian girl hurt me so much? I already know it's because he was trying to teach me something, and he's taught me, but I don't know why he isn't working in my heart to give me an answer to THAT question.

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Permalink Reply by Captain Kieth on January 19, 2010 at 2:05pm: Saint, there are times that the Lord uses things around us to strengthen us. This is one of those times for YOU. The Lord took away 2 people in my life. Why ? Because He needed my undivided attention . There comes a time that no matter what, ya got to TRUST in Him. The scriptures declare that " All things work together.....FOR THE GOOD, to those that love God, called according to His purpose ". HIS PURPOSE saint, not ours...
You MUST learn to TRUST God in ALL things...
There are some issues you have, as you've mentioned, that the Lord wants to free you of. You have allowed a "root of bitterness" arise within you. That ought not be so. Take it to the Lord in prayer. Give ALL of your self and desires to HIM.
You should be greatly appreciative to the Lord for caring enough about you to cause things in your life, that you may come to a higher level in Him...

http://www.christiannation.com/profiles/blogs/why-lordwhy

May the Lord of Light shine brightly in your heart...
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Permalink Reply by deniseforte on January 19, 2010 at 10:04pm: Did you hear of a story of a person stranded in the ocean and prayed for God to rescue him? There was several items that passed by him that he never thought about using and cried to God about why he didnt help him.

When i was with my ex boyfriend of fives years i endured so much pain and i cried to God about how i wanted him to fix this relationship and felt at the time he turned his back on my pain. Now that i am out of that situations i can see that there has been so many red flags throw at me that I choose to ignore, then i hurt later and blamed God for my bad decisions. This even did strengthen me a lot.

The story your telling me seems one sided- Like it sounds like you were 100% interested and the other person wasn't. You spoke about how they wasn't mature enough to want a relationship, or pushed you away. She may have good reason why she has done this that is unknown to you. Communication is very important in any friendship and other common relationships.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Ginger for God on January 20, 2010 at 1:23pm: Oh, no sorry. And I'm not saying GOD didn't have a reason, she did like me, and I know it, because she told me so when I told her, but what I'm just saying is that she was a really good CHRISTIAN friend, and to be honest, I don't have a lot of those, so it really hurt when some one who was close to me and close to the LORD like she was hurt me like that, though I do understand what you're saying. And it definitely is one sided, but I do have some ideas of WHY she didn't want to have a RELATIONSHIP but she more made it sound like she didn't want me as a friend either.

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Did you hear of a story of a person stranded in the ocean and prayed for God to rescue him? There was several items that passed by him that he never thought about using and cried to God about why he didnt help him.

When i was with my ex boyfriend of fives years i endured so much pain and i cried to God about how i wanted him to fix this relationship and felt at the time he turned his back on my pain. Now that i am out of that situations i can see that there has been so many red flags throw at me that I choose to ignore, then i hurt later and blamed God for my bad decisions. This even did strengthen me a lot.

The story your telling me seems one sided- Like it sounds like you were 100% interested and the other person wasn't. You spoke about how they wasn't mature enough to want a relationship, or pushed you away. She may have good reason why she has done this that is unknown to you. Communication is very important in any friendship and other common relationships.; ▶ Reply to This